There has been a post circulating around Facebook and other places which begins “I’m not pro-murdering babies.” The post then presents various circumstances in which an abortion could be justified, in the view of the author. The problems with the post and many and varied. So, we thought it would hopefully be fruitful to walk through a potential response.
The original post will be in bold with commentary in between in regular font.
I’m not pro-murdering babies.
Good! Me either. I’m glad that we have that in common.
I’m pro-Becky who found out at her 20 week anatomy scan that the infant she had been so excited to bring into this world had developed without life sustaining organs.
This is tragic for Becky. My wife and I suffered a miscarriage a couple of years ago and it was horrendous. There are so many things that can go wrong with development during pregnancy for mother and baby. If it is the case that the baby is developing without life-sustaining organs, then the baby will likely pass away before birth, resulting in miscarriage. The coming days or weeks will be difficult, but there are only two options: abortion or stillborn birth.
How should Becky’s baby enter the world and be laid to rest? Should a doctor kill her baby and suck the baby out with a machine after dismemberment? Or should labor be induced once the baby inevitably dies, allowing the parents to hold their baby, bury their baby, and grieve? I do not see a choice here. Having held my dead child in my arms (we lost the baby at 19 weeks), I would not give up those precious moments for anything.
As an aside, tests are wrong all the time, and it might be worth your child’s life to get another opinion.
I’m pro-Susan who was sexually assaulted on her way home from work, only to come to the horrific realization that her assailant planted his seed in her when she got a positive pregnancy test result a month later.
Susan should be shown all the support possible. What was done to her is reprehensible and I hope that her rapist is caught and fully punished. However, Susan has a choice: should she perpetuate the evil of the father, by killing her child? Or should Susan overcome her rapist by allowing life to be brought into the world? If she does not want to raise her child, there are dozens of parents in her local area ready to adopt her baby. Adding murder to rape is not compassion and it is not the answer.
Abortion is traumatic and most women who seek an abortion, statistically speaking, regret it. Further, surgical abortion is not without complications, nor is the abortion pill. The choice becomes simple when women are shown the care and concern they deserve. Crisis pregnancy centers must be supported, and if you do not have any locally, then start one. But I will never be convinced that the right thing for a victim of rape to do is to become the victim of our culture of death. Life is always better than death. Bringing life into the world can be healing, it all depends on the people and support systems around you.
I’m pro-Theresa who hemorrhaged due to a placental abruption, causing her parents, spouse, and children to have to make the impossible decision on whether to save her or her unborn child.
First, who is the power of attorney for Theresa? Why are the parents making this decision if her spouse is there? And why are her children making any decisions?? I understand that this post was written from a place of emotion, but this is ludicrous, on its face.
As for placental abruption, the leading factor for this is high blood pressure. So, good prenatal care is a must. Crisis pregnancy centers provide this free of charge for expectant mothers and can screen often for preeclampsia. That being said, Theresa is past this stage and she is in a scary situation.
It is not possible to reattach the placenta to the uterine wall. If the baby is not close to full term, then hospitalization and monitoring are likely. If the baby’s condition remains stable, at home bedrest is possible. Medication can also be given to help the baby’s lungs mature and protect the baby’s brain in case early delivery is necessary.
If the baby is close to full term, generally after 34 weeks, then monitored delivery or C-section is a possibility.
In any case, where is the necessity of an abortion? Why would a doctor give up on either patient? If our answer is to choose between mother and child for a placental abruption, then a new doctor is called for.
I’m pro-little Cathy who had her innocence ripped away from her by someone she should have been able to trust and her 11 year old body isn’t mature enough to bear the consequence of that betrayal.
Whoever raped Cathy should be found, punished, and never see the free light of day again. The insinuation here is that this is the case of incest. In most cases, the victims of incest never see justice because of the crime of abortion.
If we can step back from the emotion of the situation, we can see how illogical this statement is. The 11-year-old girl’s body is clearly “mature enough” to be pregnant if she got pregnant. This is basic biology. It will certainly be difficult, as any pregnancy is, but abortion clinics, unfortunately, become complicit in these cases. The abuser takes the victim to the clinic; no questions are asked, and the baby is killed. In other words, the evidence is gone, and the abuse continues. Not to mention, this poor kid is going to have to live with the trauma of having had her baby killed on top of the trauma of abuse.
I’m pro-Melissa who’s working two jobs just to make ends meet and has to choose between bringing another child into poverty or feeding the children she already has because her spouse walked out on her.
This is a false dilemma. In our country, there are a plethora of federal and state programs which exist to help Melissa. And this is not to mention the various services provided by friends, family, neighbors, churches, and nonprofits. There are also free legal resources by which to ensure that her deadbeat husband pays child support.
Killing her child, the new brother or sister of her children, is not the answer. It simply cannot be. If this is what our society has come to, then to hell with it. We must do better. We must support people like Melissa wherever they are found. Melissa deserves it. Her children deserve it. Her new baby deserves it.
I’m pro-Brittany who realizes that she is in no way financially, emotionally, or physically able to raise a child.
Brittany needs all the care that we have given Becky, Susan, Theresa, Cathy, and Melissa. She needs to know that she is loved and supported. And if when the child is born, she does not want to be the active mother in the child’s life, then there are countless couples ready to adopt her baby.
We also need to teach everyone in our society to take personal responsibility. If Brittany is not financially, emotionally, or physically able to be pregnant, then (assuming the sexual activity was consensual) she should refrain from sexual activity. There is only one way that babies are made naturally, after all. Maybe this is an unpopular position but abortion, divorce, and birth control generally are correlated.
I’m pro-Emily who went through IVF, ending up with SIX viable implanted eggs requiring selective reduction in order to ensure the safety of her and a SAFE amount of fetuses.
The general number of fertilized eggs (human beings) which are produced in the IVF process is 11. Generally, only 1 of those 11 is viable and develops in utero. The other 10 human persons (because biologically life does begin at conception) are frozen indefinitely, die, or are destroyed. So, there is no “safe” amount of fetuses. All of the biological conditions for life are satisfied at the moment of conception, and so the “safe” amount of fetuses referenced here are human beings, no matter how small they are.
IVF is horrific and can never be considered pro-life if words are to continue to have any meaning.
I’m pro-Jessica who is FINALLY getting the strength to get away from her physically abusive spouse only to find out that she is carrying the monster’s child.
People like Jessica should be empowered to flee abuse! This is very pro-life. No woman should be hurt or made to feel less in any way. I’m glad she got away.
As to her pregnancy: she is carrying *her* child. The father will always be the father’s child, sure. But the child is a unique, unrepeatable individual. Do we blame children for the sins of their parents? Do we punish and kill children because of the fault of their father? I hope not.
I’m pro-Vanessa who went into her confirmation appointment after YEARS of trying to conceive only to hear silence where there should be a heartbeat.
Vanessa deserves support and love from those around her. Fertility issues are difficult and draining. And having the hope of pregnancy dashed at the appointment is devastating.
I’m pro-Lindsay who lost her virginity in her sophomore year with a broken condom and now has to choose whether to be a teenage mom or just a teenager.
Lindsay, and everyone else in our society, should be offered every support to choose life. Again, the choice here is to have Lindsay be complicit in killing her child or give the greatest gift possible to her child, life. We cannot erase the consequence of actions; this is true throughout all of life. And especially when the consequence of the sexual act is the procreation of a human person, then the choice becomes moot. We either have the right to life, at all stages, or we do not.
I’m pro-Courtney who just found out she’s already 13 weeks along, but the egg never made it out of her fallopian tube so either she terminates the pregnancy or risks dying from internal bleeding.
Ectopic pregnancies can rupture between 5 and 11 weeks, generally. So, this discovery would require immediate action! If the fallopian tube burst, the internal bleeding would indeed be serious for the mother. An ectopic pregnancy will not proceed, as the fallopian tube can simply not support a baby.
The course of treatment would likely be a partial tubal ligation. The outcome of this would be a 50% loss in overall fertility and will result in the death of the baby. However, this is not an abortion. The medical procedure has the primary intention of removing the fallopian tube to preempt the very serious rupture and internal bleeding. The secondary, foreseen but unintended effect, is the death of the baby. This is tragic, but it is not an abortion. Abortion is the direct and intentional killing of a baby, in the womb.
You can argue and say that I’m pro-choice all you want, but the truth is:
I’m not going to say that the person who wrote this post is pro-choice. That’s unhelpful and does not matter. They are opposed to murdering babies; that was the first statement. So, I will assume they meant that, consistently and fully.
You don’t get to pick and choose which scenarios should be accepted.
It’s not about which stories you don’t agree with. It’s about fighting for the women in the stories that you do agree with and the CHOICE that was made.
We can, should, and must pick and choose in these scenarios. The proper distinctions must be made because life literally hangs in the balance. I support crisis pregnancy centers in my area and am a support to all those who are in my life facing difficult situations. I am pro-woman. But I am also pro-baby.
I agree that we do not get to pick and choose or agree or disagree when it comes to two things: 1) supporting these various women and 2) defending the lives of the unborn who also have dignity and worth.
The final sentence does not make any sense: “It’s about fighting for the women in the stories that you do agree with…” Huh? Did the author mean “regardless of whether you agree?” I don’t know.
At any rate, we can make distinctions and reject certain “choices.” We do this all the time as a society. We reject the choice of one person to pull a gun out and murder another person. We reject the choice of one person to trespass on another person’s property. We reject the choice of one person to steal from another person. We reject all sorts of choices. I also happen to reject the choice of a mother to kill her innocent child, who is a unique, unrepeatable, human person of inestimable worth.
Women’s rights are meant to protect ALL women, regardless of their situation!
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Most babies killed (especially if you consider the historical one-child policy in China) by abortion are girls. Do we care about these women too? Do we care about the psychological and physiological effects of abortion on women?
And because it must be said: the baby is a human person from the first moment of conception. The baby is not part of the mother’s body. There is so much more to say, but this will have to suffice for one post.
Choose life. Love life. Honor life. Do not choose between mother and child. Choose both.
More Answers From A Pro-Life Perspective
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The Pro-Life Reply to: “Abortion in Cases of Rape”
Defeating Pro-Life Arguments
Responding to Pro-Choice Arguments
Answering The Best Pro Choice Argument
How to Talk with Your Pro-Choice Friends
“As Catholics, we are committed to working and praying for the conversion of minds and hearts so all people will respect the dignity of the human person from conception to natural death. Our national outreach, Walking with Moms in Need, helps parishes to identify and help provide the full range of needs for mothers and their unborn children, not only during pregnancy, but for years to come. We stand with Pope Francis, who reminds us that killing a child is never a solution to a problem. We advocate for surrounding both mother and her child with love and practical support as the humane response to a difficult pregnancy.”