This video can be a great apostolic resource for those who are considering to embark upon a serious relationship.
Often the idea of aging, of losing the ever so idolized beauty of youth, scares us. At the bottom, their lies that idea of insecurity: how could I be loved if I look like that? Or even: how could I love the same person for so long?
When one speaks with youth, the idea of finding the love of one’s life and never leaving him/her has almost become a fairy tale, something that grandma or grandpa talks about in front of the fire late at night. While there are certainly many beautiful examples of faithful marriage, we are also witness and victims of our “disposable culture”.
As a result of this culture that has heartily embraced the divorce option, it seems that many young people grow up with a large store of antibodies against the great ideals such as lasting love and fidelity. Now, we hear of a different kind of love, one that has become something immediate and fleeting. But is this truly love?
Gabriel Marcel, a French Catholic convert writes that the real meaning of “to say that one loves a being” resides in saying, “Because I love you, because I affirm you as a being, there is something in you which can bridge the abyss that I vaguely call ‘Death’”. Put simply, to say that I love you mean means that for me you will never die.
When we read, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. (Mark 10:9),” we aren’t only dealing with a moral code, but also a simple manifestation of true love. Love has a natural fascination for eternity. Like a good wine, it gets better with time; or perhaps better, love necessarily requires time.
Thus, when a young man and woman ask me for advice about their relationship, wondering whether it something authentic, the first thing I suggest is time and patience.
Impatience lies at the heart of most of our mistakes. Perhaps for this reason, some commentators of Genesis suggest that God, in the end, would have offered Adam and Eve the fruit of the tree of life if only they would have waited.
Here’s a recent comment from Pope Francis who speaks about our vocation to care for the covenant of marriage.