Even if you didn’t watch the Oscars, you’ve likely seen all over social media what occurred between Chris Rock, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Will Smith. An offensive joke was told at the expense of Jada Pinkett Smith and her husband retaliated by walking on stage to slap Chris Rock and then proceeded to cuss him out. Everyone seems to have an opinion on what took place. Some say it was honorable of Will Smith to stand up for his wife who is suffering from an autoimmune condition known as Alopecia Areata. Others say that violence is never the right response and that Smith should have talked to the comedian in private rather than on live television.

Watch: Will Smith Hits Chris Rock At The Oscars, Apologizes During Speech

What is the right response? Let’s turn to the Saints for their wisdom. Here’s the advice we think they may have offered.

How The Saints Might Respond To Chris Rock And Will Smith

“No one heals himself by wounding another.”

— St. Ambrose

“To be angry is human; to put an end to one’s anger is Christian.” — St. Jerome

“Guard against anger, but if it cannot be averted, let it be kept within bounds. For indignation is a terrible incentive to sin. It disorders the mind to such an extent as to leave no room for reason.”

— St. Ambrose

“Be ashamed when you sin. Do not be ashamed when you repent. Pay attention to what the devil did to you. These are two things: sin and repentance. Sin is a wound; repentance is a medicine. Just as there are for the body wounds and medicines, so for the soul are sins and repentance. However, sin has the shame and repentance possesses the courage.” — Saint John Chrysostom

“There is still time for endurance, time for patience, time for healing, time for change. Have you slipped? Rise up. Have you sinned? Cease. Do not stand among sinners, but leap aside.”

— St. Basil the Great

“If a man finds it very hard to forgive injuries, let him look at a crucifix, and think that Christ shed His Blood for him, and not only forgave his enemies, but prayed the Eternal Father forgive them also.” — St. Philip Neri

“Undertake courageously great tasks for God’s glory, to the extent that he’ll give you power and grace for this purpose. Even though you can do nothing on your own, you can do all things in him. His help will never fail you if you have confidence in his goodness. Place your entire physical and spiritual welfare in his hands. Abandon to the fatherly concern of his divine providence every care for your health, reputation, property, and business; for those near to you; for your past sins; for your soul’s progress in virtue and love of him; for your life, death, and especially your salvation and eternity—in a word, all your cares. Rest in the assurance that in his pure goodness, he’ll watch with particular tenderness over all your responsibilities and cares, arranging all things for the greatest good.”

—St. John Eudes

“Be peace-loving. Peace is a precious treasure to be sought with great zeal. You are well aware that our sins arouse God’s anger. You must change your life, therefore, so that God in his mercy will pardon you. What we conceal from men is known to God. Be converted, then, with a sincere heart. Live your life that you may receive the blessing of the Lord. Then the peace of God our Father will be with you always.” — St. Francis of Paola

“Do not fear what may happen tomorrow. The same loving Father who cares for you today will care for you tomorrow and every day. Either He will shield you from suffering, or He will give you unfailing strength to bear it. Be at peace, then, and put aside all anxious thoughts and imaginings.”

— St. Francis de Sales

“If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend. If he won’t listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again. If he still won’t listen, tell the church. If he won’t listen to the church, you’ll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God’s forgiving love.” — Matthew 15:16-18

“We ought to speak, shout out against injustices, with confidence and without fear. We proclaim the principles of the Church, the reign of love, without forgetting that it is also a reign of justice.”

— Bl. Miguel Pro

“In my deepest wound I saw your glory, and it dazzled me.”

— St. Augustine

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” —  St. Mother Teresa of Calcutta

“True charity consists in doing good to those who do us evil, and in thus winning them over.” 

—  St. Alphonsus Liguori

“Trials and tribulations offer us a chance to make reparation for our past faults and sins. On such occasions, the Lord comes to us like a physician to heal the wounds left by our sins. Tribulation is the divine medicine.” — St. Augustine of Hippo

`“See to it that you refrain from harsh words. But if you do speak them, do not be ashamed to apply the remedy from the same lips that inflicted the wounds.”

— St. Francis of Paola

“He who knows how to forgive prepares for himself many graces from God. As often as I look upon the cross so often will I forgive with all my heart.”

— St. Faustina 

“We are not the sum of our weaknesses and failures, we are the sum of the Father’s love for us and our real capacity to become the image of His Son Jesus.”

— St. Pope John Paul II

“Force yourself, if necessary, always to forgive those who offend you, from the very first moment. For the greatest injury or offense you can suffer from them is nothing compared to what God has forgiven you.” — St. Josemaria Escriva

Some Saint Advice For All Of Us Giving Our Opinions On The Situation

“It is a lesson we all need—to let alone the things that do not concern us. He has other ways for others to follow Him; all do not go by the same path. It is for each of us to learn the path by which He requires us to follow Him, and to follow Him in that path.”

— St. Katharine Drexel

One thing is clear. Everyone involved in this incident is wounded and in need of God’s healing mercy. Instead of gossiping about it and sharing your opinion, take a minute to pray for the complete spiritual, emotional, and physical healing of all involved.